A field guide to self-compassion

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We have hectic lives

Like many of you, my life was GO, GO, GO with lots of pressure that I thought I thrived on. My name could have been Adrenaline for all I knew. Daily success involved finishing my to-do list, that I updated over and over again in a spiral notebook. I filled many notebooks documenting the progress of my life.

The “just do it” society

We all have an inner voice, maybe you call it self-talk or an alter ego. My inner voice kept saying “just do it” and don’t think about anything else. I confronted life’s challenges by being in a perpetual problem-solving mode.

Our coping mechanisms

I accepted the pressures of my job and my caregiver role for a long while because I was raised with the expectation that I should work hard and help others and “just do it”. Period.

On the road to a place called self-compassion

Getting here has been a long road that I have travelled along for over 6 months. In my case, slowly I realized that we cannot take care of others, let alone the suffering world, if our empathy and love for others are not grounded in self-compassion. I have also learned that the tough “just do it” voice does not provide a sustainable path to achievement and personal happiness.

Woman of a certain age. On a good day I am 12 feet tall. www.thewritebusiness.ca

Woman of a certain age. On a good day I am 12 feet tall. www.thewritebusiness.ca